If you are stuck in a relationship with a narcissist, you should know that sex with a narcissist is not about intimacy but a means to manipulate and control. Their lack of interest in your emotional and physical needs leaves you feeling unsatisfied and unloved. Take control of your own needs, prioritize self-care, and find the courage to leave a toxic relationship that does not provide the love, affection, and passion that you deserve.

The Dark Reality of Sex With a Narcissist

Narcissists enter relationships for the sole purpose of fulfilling their own needs and desires. They use their partner for social validation, to boost their ego, and make their lives more comfortable. Narcissists are not concerned with their partner’s romantic or physical needs. 

For narcissists, sexual interaction is a burden, and they want to be done with it as quickly as possible. Sex with a narcissist is like having sex with a lifeless pillow or, worse, being violated. It’s a forced interaction lacking any pleasure or affection.

When does a narcissist have sex?

Physical intimacy with a narcissist typically happens for one of the following reasons:

1. Sex as a Manipulative Tactic:

Narcissists see sex and affection as tools to achieve their goals, only exhibiting these behaviors when they have a desired outcome. You’ll only see affection from a narcissist when they need something from you.

2. Sex as a Favor:

Another way to receive physical affection from a narcissist is to keep begging for it. Despite repeated requests for intimacy, they will only occasionally appease you to shut you up. And even then, they will make you feel guilty as if you have a sexual addiction or excessive lust.

The Reality

The truth is that a narcissist will never have sex with you out of the desire for you. Any physical interaction with a narcissist will be devoid of emotion, passion, and sentiment. For a narcissist to desire you without any hidden motive, they would need to admit that they need something from you – which goes against the very definition of narcissism.

The Solution

Remember that your needs and wants are just as important as your narcissistic partner’s. Unfortunately, you have very few options if you’re stuck in such a relationship.

The best option is to save yourself and exit the relationship, opening doors to new opportunities.

If you cannot leave the relationship, you must do whatever it takes to survive. Educate yourself as much as possible about narcissists, boost your self-esteem, stop relying on them, and try to stay sane.

Conclusion

If you’re searching for love, affection, and passion in a relationship, you should not be with a narcissist. They’re not equipped to provide the emotional and physical intimacy ordinary people crave. Accept or end the relationship if you are in such a situation.