The Illusion of Empathy

The term “empath” has become fashionable, implying a heightened sensitivity to other people’s emotions and actions. Throughout life’s journey, we often focus on the activities and choices of others. However, while constantly evaluating everyone else, we often become oblivious to ourselves and our impact on others.

Further Reading:

• No More Ms. Nice Gal
• Nice Guy Habits Your Must Break Free From
• “Mr. Nice Guy” Syndrome: A Recipe for Disaster

Justifying Our Actions

Everyone possesses the capacity to justify their actions, even when morally questionable. A murderer rationalizes their crime, and a rapist convinces themselves that it was the right thing to do or that their victim was to blame.

Obliviousness and Self-Image

Consider the smoker who remains unaware of the lingering odor they leave behind. Similarly, when our breath turns foul, we often can’t detect the unpleasant smell, even though it’s right under our noses. This obliviousness extends to our behavior, body language, and tone, affecting our relationships with others. Our innate ability to protect our self-image is often the cause of our miseries and shortcomings.

Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage

Breaking free from the cycle of self-sabotage requires conscious effort and mindfulness. By acknowledging our missteps and recognizing the impact of our actions, we can begin to heal and learn from our mistakes. As we become more aware, we may uncover patterns from our past that contributed to our misery.

Accepting Responsibility

It’s natural to feel like a victim. Still, we must accept responsibility for our actions and strive for personal growth.

The Dark Trail of Self-Sabotage

As I become slightly more aware and look back, I see a dark trail of self-sabotage. I see how I created misery for myself – not just the “Mr. Nice Guy” stuff I’ve written about before, but some genuinely harmful actions that drove my partners, friends, and colleagues insane.

Realizing Our Role

Looking back with conscious awareness, I see pretty clearly how my misdemeanors were probably the reason they reacted so poorly toward me. I always saw what they did and felt like the saintly victim, with them as the devil. But looking back, I fear I was probably the actual devil.

The Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful tool in this journey. We can cultivate healthier relationships and karmic connections by releasing the baggage of past lives and starting anew. As we forgive others for their transgressions, we must also seek forgiveness for our own.

Apology and Moving Forward

So today, in acceptance and realization that I was not always the victim nor the God’s gift to humanity I portrayed myself to be, I must apologize.

I forgive everyone for anything they may have done to me in this life and previous lives. I hope they can forgive me for anything I may have done to them in this life and previous lives. We can start brand new karmic accounts.